All Friendships NULL AND VOID.
All through life, you're going to meet people that you form a bond, and the strength and type of that bond depends on what situation you've met in, and how long you're going to know eachother.
An example of a strong bond would involve my friend Tom. We drop out of touch for sometimes years at a time because he travels a lot, but when we got back together, it's as though we had never lost touch. We just swapped a Sega Mega Drive with Streets of Rage for a guitar and a drum kit.
An example of a weaker bond could be someone you once knew at school for maybe a year or so in the early stages, but haven't seen since.
I'm going to nullify the bonds that are formed in idle banter between two interviewees or a customer and shop-attendant / waiter / waitress, because any bond forged between you is purely temporary, and neither party expects this bond to last any longer than 3.5 minutes after you leave the shop.
Obviously this bond will change if you're going into the same shop and talking to the same female cashier and buying the same pack of Lambert and Butler from the bottom shelf of the counter behind, as this counts and both perving and to a degree, stalking.
Back to the subject in hand and now that we've got an idea of what sort of bonds I'm talking about, when is it okay to break this bond? What's the time limit of not seeing eachother before you wipe the slate clean and treat the other person as though you'd never met, and blank them in the street?
What makes this question even harder to answer is whether the other person reciprocates the eye contact, or whether they blank you first. In this case, it's probably okay to blank them. But then again, are they blanking you because they think you'll blank them first and don't want to give you the chance?
My expiry times always seem to be longer than other peoples', because I may want to say hello to some people, but realise that they don't want to say hello to me.
My conclusion is that the longer this bond is left, the easier it is to need no eye contact, unless you really don't like them, in which case this blanking process becomes much much much easier.
Maybe that's why my girlfriend keeps pretending she doesn't know me in the street...
An example of a strong bond would involve my friend Tom. We drop out of touch for sometimes years at a time because he travels a lot, but when we got back together, it's as though we had never lost touch. We just swapped a Sega Mega Drive with Streets of Rage for a guitar and a drum kit.
An example of a weaker bond could be someone you once knew at school for maybe a year or so in the early stages, but haven't seen since.
I'm going to nullify the bonds that are formed in idle banter between two interviewees or a customer and shop-attendant / waiter / waitress, because any bond forged between you is purely temporary, and neither party expects this bond to last any longer than 3.5 minutes after you leave the shop.
Obviously this bond will change if you're going into the same shop and talking to the same female cashier and buying the same pack of Lambert and Butler from the bottom shelf of the counter behind, as this counts and both perving and to a degree, stalking.
Back to the subject in hand and now that we've got an idea of what sort of bonds I'm talking about, when is it okay to break this bond? What's the time limit of not seeing eachother before you wipe the slate clean and treat the other person as though you'd never met, and blank them in the street?
What makes this question even harder to answer is whether the other person reciprocates the eye contact, or whether they blank you first. In this case, it's probably okay to blank them. But then again, are they blanking you because they think you'll blank them first and don't want to give you the chance?
My expiry times always seem to be longer than other peoples', because I may want to say hello to some people, but realise that they don't want to say hello to me.
My conclusion is that the longer this bond is left, the easier it is to need no eye contact, unless you really don't like them, in which case this blanking process becomes much much much easier.
Maybe that's why my girlfriend keeps pretending she doesn't know me in the street...
Labels: blank, bond, friendship, no eye contact
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